Focus on the end result

I briefly joined Nick Breau’s The Collective and as a combination of asking my guides and working through a “belief tree” I’ve had my own private epiphany. As Abraham Hicks says, reading and learning doesn’t teach, only experience teaches. You need to physically experience or witness something for the teaching to really sink in which is why we all need to our own little epiphanies, or stumble across someone else’s that resonates with us… Which essentially means this might be useless for you unless you experience it with me, but I’ll share it anyway.

I am afraid of disappointment, and who amongst us is not? But in working through my belief tree I realised that if something is meant to be, I do believe it will work out. That disappointment isn’t always a bad thing – how many times have you realised in retrospect that something you wanted that you didn’t get, or didn’t happened, turned out to be the right thing for you? Haven’t you ever realised with a creeping horror that getting that job you so coveted would have been disastrous? That sometimes what we think we want isn’t really what we want at all. Should that make us afraid of wanting? No, not at all, but it takes us back to the basics of law of attraction. Everything we want is because we believe that we will feel better in the having of it. As humans in a physical world we get hung up on the things we think will make us happy instead of focusing on the feelings of being happy. So to avoid getting the wrong thing, we should focus on how we want to FEEL and let the Universe sort out what things or circumstances will get us there.

And if you’ve read anything about LOA you’ll know that’s what it’s all about, “well that’s not really a revelation, Kate, now is it?” “Worthy of a blog post?” I hear you mutter. Well I think so. If you really break it all down. It’s like all the cheesy quotes you thought were great (stop and smell the roses) but they didn’t really mean anything until one day suddenly they really mean everything to you. That clarity. That “ohh” moment. Frank Skinner calls it the Idiotic Eureka Moment, when you suddenly realise that everyone else in the world knows that Banofee is banana and toffee when you think you’ve just stumbled on something clever and unknown. Stay with me for a minute. Imagine, just for a minute that all this law of attraction really works. Imagine therefore that you want to be rich. What do you really want? Do you want to be physically surrounded by piles of money? No, well, maybe for the Instagram shot, but beyond that, what is it you really want? Freedom? Freedom to give up work, or, freedom to choose your work? Freedom to travel? Freedom to buy whatever house you want, wherever you want? Freedom to buy whatever car you want, and as many of them as you want? So you don’t really want money, what you really want is the choices that you believe that having money will give you.

If you focus on wanting money, without cultivating the feeling of what having the money will achieve, i.e. the feeling of FREEDOM, you won’t get what you want. You may get money, but if you haven’t attracted that feeling of freedom, the money can’t set you free.

As Nick Breau says, if you want something, without resistance, nothing can hold you from it, certainly not the money. However if you focus on the money and not what you hope to achieve through having money, you could get money and be no better off.

In our last cottage, which we both loved so dearly, we were devastated when our neighbours built two enormous modern houses between us and the view. Their garages had a bigger footprint than our 200 year cottage. We used to joke that if we won the lottery, the first things we’d do is buy the two houses and raze them to the ground and we became obsessed with how much money would we need to win to make this a reality. What naturally followed was the discussions about what else we would do with the money. Gary wanted to travel. Private jet. Whilst I like the idea of it, the reality was, I didn’t want to leave Twiggy (before you think I’d happily give up the chickens I need to mention we hadn’t got them yet!). Would I give up my cat for a jet-set lifestyle? No. Could we take her with us? Probably, but whilst I think she’d tolerate being on a ship, I didn’t think flying would impress her much. She was a ferocious hunter and I would never deny her the outdoors. We could rehome her, but that suffocated me just to think of, and Gary didn’t want that either, he was as much, if not more, in love with Twiggy as I was. We could have people live at home with her, but that didn’t see fair either, I felt we’d have to rehome her properly to allow her to bond with another family. At this point, my best friend, eyed me up and mentioned casually that this cat was more maintenance than having 3 children….

Being a simple man Gary was happy to dream his dream without concerning himself with the practicalities, but this kept me awake at night. Losing sleep over a lottery win that hadn’t happened: you can see why I struggle with LOA! Having a jet-set life would cost me my cat. No amount of money could fix that. The bottom line is, money can’t buy you everything. You think it can, but it can’t.

You have to focus on the end result, and money cannot, will not, according to the Law of Attraction, be a factor in preventing it happening. And that is true of all things you think you want. You have to focus on the FEELING you are trying to achieve, and not the physical things or circumstances that you think will achieve the feeling. I can feel my mentor Annie rolling her eyes upwards at this. FOCUS ON THE END RESULT, isn’t that what she’s been saying all along? Well yes, but sometimes it has to smack you in the face, and even though it has, I’m not sure that makes it any easier! I’m still trying to fathom the practicalities of how to get my chickens to my desert island when I win the lottery…